{"id":103511,"date":"2021-05-05T14:03:34","date_gmt":"2021-05-05T19:03:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ringsidereport.com\/?p=103511"},"modified":"2021-05-05T14:07:20","modified_gmt":"2021-05-05T19:07:20","slug":"according-to-google-searches-related-to-violence-against-women-up-75","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ringsidereport.com\/?p=103511","title":{"rendered":"According To Google, Searches Related To Violence Against Women Up 75%"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">\ufeff<\/span><\/script><br \/>\n<!-- RSR AD 1 --><br \/>\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display: block;\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-1545664804358300\" data-ad-slot=\"7759247395\" data-ad-format=\"auto\" data-full-width-responsive=\"true\"><\/ins><br \/>\n<script>\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\n<\/script><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/ringsidereport.com\/?p=103511\" rel=\"https:\/\/ringsidereport.com\/?p=103511\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-103513 size-full\" style=\"margin-right: 10px;\" src=\"https:\/\/ringsidereport.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/084c7da1f93d19456f38905a2eecc4ce-women-empowerment-quotes-quotes-women.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"236\" height=\"202\" \/><\/a>By Ty Ross<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As a survivor of domestic abuse, this information is both shocking and terrifying. The pandemic has made us all a bit cuckoo, but for those with violent tendencies, it seems to have manifested into action.<\/p>\n<p>My first marriage was one filled with verbal, mental and emotional abuse. My husband would frequently berate me. Back handed compliments, insults and control were his weapons of choice. I wasn\u2019t allowed to have a car of my own, or to drive his. To leave the house when he was at work, and GOD help me if I happened to be in the shower, or cooking when he called and didn\u2019t answer the phone. When he called, it was to make sure that I was right where he left me, and where I should be. Home. Alone. <!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Hanging out with friends was not an option, and I had nothing in my name or financial resources of my own. There was no such thing as not being in the mood or being too tired for sex. Because if I said no, it would result in hours of arguing and accusations. Usually ending with calling me a useless whore. And never failing to remind me that as a police officer, there was nowhere I could go that he couldn\u2019t, or wouldn\u2019t find me. So don\u2019t even think about it. The third person in our relationship was the 9mm that was never out of sight. Or reach.<\/p>\n<p>He even went so far as to leave me at a store after an argument about who can remember. It was hot, and without cell phones or Uber, I was forced to find my way home. It took about three hours, but I finally made it. When I walked in he was sitting nonchalantly on the couch watching tv. He looked at his watch and casually said \u2018only three hours, you must have called your boyfriend to pick you up.\u2019<\/p>\n<p>It wasn\u2019t long after that, during an argument, he grabbed his pistol and said he could kill me, and nobody would give a shit. And I had zero doubt he meant it. Not just because he was white and I was black, but because he was a law enforcement officer and in the eyes of society that meant he mattered, and I didn\u2019t. So, when he went to work, I went out the door. Taking only what I could carry, I fled to a friend\u2019s house on the other side of town. I avoided anywhere I may run into him or be seen, and soon left the city altogether.<\/p>\n<p>When I read the Journal of Psychology\u2019s report on Google search results related to violence against women, and how the pandemic has seen an increase in domestic abuse, I was not completely surprised. Domestic violence in this country is an epidemic that has long been a problem. It also brought back a lot of memories. It was a relief when my husband went to work. A few hours of peace and autonomy. I can only imagine the fear that grips women in households of abuse, not having any relief. Being the only ones around for their husbands to take their anger and frustrations out on 24\/7.<\/p>\n<p>The phrases \u2018how to control your woman\u2019 and \u2018how to hit a woman so no one knows\u2019, were both searched over 165M times. Article after article populated the search with everything from How to Psychologically Abuse Your Partner to step-by-step guides on controlling what your partner wears, eats and spends their money on. Hawaii, New York and Connecticut have all drafted legislation that recognizes these as criminal forms of domestic abuse. Not nearly enough, but definitely a step in the right direction.<\/p>\n<p>There were over 178M searches for the term \u2018I am going to kill her when she gets home.\u2019 An increase of 39% over 2019. There was also an increase in what appears to be women seeking help with \u2018Help me, he won\u2019t leave\u2019 being searched 1.2B times. Yes, BILLION. \u2018He beats me up all the time\u2019 was searched for 320M times.<\/p>\n<p>The culture of toxic masculinity in this country, has not only increased, but seems to have become acceptable to a portion of society. Weaponizing and politicizing the need to better teach the men in this country how to behave towards and treat women in our society. Oklahoma passed legislation that prevents its colleges and universities from mandating classes for young men entering college on proper and healthy male behavior on campuses. What they learn here, they will take out into the world and the workplace. But it seems to be a non-issue for those intent on turning everything into a culture war, regardless of who it hurts.<\/p>\n<p>There needs to be an investment in resources that helps women in situations like these. It\u2019s time we learn to recognize the signs and be more aware of behaviors that are indicative of abuse. It is a popular misconception that you have to be physically harmed to be abused, and that\u2019s simply not true. All scars aren\u2019t visible. I\u2019m proof of that.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #808000;\"><em><strong>Check out Ty&#8217;s book THE POWER OF PERSPECTIVE. It&#8217;s a collection of affirmations she wrote to get her through a difficult time in her life. Words of wisdom that apply to anyone, and everyone, to get through the hard times. If you\u2019re questioning yourself, and need a reminder that you are in control&#8230; Click <a style=\"color: #808000;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/POWER-PERSPECTIVE-Gaining-Clarity-Affirmation-ebook\/dp\/B07JW63Q6X\">HERE<\/a> to order your copy.<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>[si-contact-form form=&#8217;2&#8242;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Ty Ross As a survivor of domestic abuse, this information is both shocking and terrifying. The pandemic has made us all a bit cuckoo, but for those with violent tendencies, it seems to have manifested into action. My first marriage was one filled with verbal, mental and emotional abuse. 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